How do I start talking about sexuality with my teenager?

Sometimes you can initiate a conversation around a television storyline, magazine article or the words to a song. For example, if you think the attitudes and values being presented are good, say so.

• Often it's easiest to talk when you're doing routine things together, like clearing up after a meal, shopping or going somewhere in the car.
• Be open to discussing tough issues – or your teenager may rely on friends or other sources. Make your personal views clear but also listen to their views and feelings.
• If you are uncomfortable about an issue, say so. Be prepared for your own feelings and responses. Think now about how you will respond to your teenager if s/he tells you they are having sex.
• Stay informed. If you don't know the answer, say you will see what you can find out, and do so.
• If your teenager feels unsure or confused, reassure them that this is absolutely normal.

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